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Your dear friend impermanence

imageWhy is seeing or hearing a cascade soothing? Not just because its nice, but also because you’re resting your visual or auditive consciousness upon its impermanence.

Why is a massage soothing? Not just because it feels good, but also because you’re resting your mind upon the impermanence of tactile sensations.

Why is jumping in a pool soothing? Not just because water feels cool, but also because you’re forcing your attention to become impermanent through sudden refreshing sensations.

Same with the breath. Rest upon its impermanence as it inhales and exhales and you’ll soothe awareness to the point of easing fixations. And we don’t even think of breathing as a hedonist activity.

Why is resting your mind upon impermanence soothing? Because you cling to nothing. So go ahead, un-cling from phenomena.

Warning: you’ll also soothe your grip on your identity and this may be fun …or not. Depending on how much you love being you.

We’re all driving under the influence

Screen Shot 2015-07-23 at 20.15.09This may sound like bad news, and it could be bad news.

But that’s the way it goes sometimes, when things are seen as they truly are.

But this new piece of information can also be good news. It all depends on your willingness to be amazed by simple truth.

The dreadful fact is: We’re all driving under the influence, under the influence of our dreams.

But it’s ok to dream and live the dream, except when life doesn’t fit the scene we see.

This mismatch may be the source of all depression, of our loss of motivation. It could also be the reason why all days taste like bitter lectures.

But the cure is not to kill the dream, nor to ignore its vivid nature.

All we have to do is let it live all it wants, but also let it die as it is its nature.

And as for the life so distant from our dream, the same remedy can be applied: Let life live exactly as life is, and let death die, exactly as death is.

On slow motion violence

imageViolence can also happen in slow motion. All you have to do is stop moving while everything else keeps moving.

It is a blow to the stomach of space and time.

Of course, to feel the pain may take a while. You could spend weeks doing nothing, without seeing the injury that is forming minute by minute.

Next thing you know, the lack of motion has made it’s dent: cable tv is gone, the dental cavity has formed, the angry email from your boss has arrived or, my favorite, you suddenly realize you have not started that awesome project you keep talking about.

So yeah, absolute stillness is violence.

Even the Buddha took a hit before discovering the middle way.

So, in order to avoid this, all you have to do is move along. Move to the rhythm of everything else that’s moving around you.

To move is to love yourself and everyone else around you.

The joy of saying it like it is

imageWhen things are fucked up, acknowledging they are fucked up is such a relief.

Try it.

I used to look for the bright side of all the bad stuff. Not to make it better, but to find some sort of wisdom behind the ugliness of days. And yeah, wisdom’s there. Plenty of stuff to learn. But I also noticed that I’d still feel like crap, even after uncovering the lessons of all downfalls.

And then it hit me: just fucking say it like it is.

“Today is a shitty day.”

Oh man, such freedom. Such relief. True Nirvana right there for all the shit that happens.

And the mechanics behind this wonderful medicine are simple: looking for the bright side does not give its rightful place to fucked up things, recognizing their existence does.

So there, spit it out and feel good.