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The idiotic need to win arguments

Defending ourselves is a waste of energy.

Someone says: You’re such an idiot. You say: No I’m not.

Think about it. Someone else’s idea vs your idea.

Two ideas obsessed with winning. Maybe one of them is right, but believe me, it does not matter.

Winning arguments improves nothing. In fact, it makes you feel like you are running out of air. It is exhausting, absurd and harmful.

Even if one wins, one has actually lost. Time was lost, joy was absent and energy was wasted. How in the world can that be called victory.

Why not rest instead. Why not just be open and let all negative remarks about you rise and fall, rise and fall. After all, everything rises and falls. All appears, disintegrates and ceases. So, even if you win the argument, the trophy will be dumped and recycled.

Why not Rest In Peace way before the inevitable physical death.

Yeah, I say death to the idiocy of winning arguments.

This is not conformity, this is the willingness to end idiocy.

You may say: “well where’s the fun in losing, why would I want to lose and feel like shit.”

My answer is: Go have your fun and avoid feeling like shit.

Like I said: In my opinion, it is harmful, redundant and idiotic to win arguments.

To cultivate the ceasing of the need to win arguments, here are some suggested meditation instructions:

  1. Be mindful of your breathing.
  2. Be mindful of your breathing and opposing views.
  3. Be mindful of your breathing, opposing views and your need to defeat them.
  4. Sustain the mindfulness of your breathing, of the opposing views and of your need to defeat them, and let the need morph naturally until it becomes “no need to win”.
  5. Continue stating your opinion free of the need to win.

The sea of black and white phenomena

BlackShamatha

Beware gloomy, Dharma kids. Black Shamatha is not True Shamatha. Photo by Dvergir

One can (and one surely will) cling to serenity. It’ll be the most pleasant state, for a while, till it turns to a tasteless world. No action will satisfy, not even the most aggressive ones. Black Shamatha will surely drive all men mad, for no ocean is as lifeless as this one.

True Shamatha, however, does provide true rest. It is the dimensionless mirror, of all things colorful. The way to True Shamatha can only be achieved through good deeds, and a good view.

Godspeed Dharma practitioners. May you don’t get lost in the sea of black and white phenomena.

Evil Ones can’t say no to empty ones

Tamed demons in the service of the Buddhas.

Tamed demons in the service of the Buddhas.

Charm is symptom of the empty ones. It is disconcerting to be in their presence. What can one do before the presence of such nature?

What can one do if one finds delight in nothingness.

Not much.

All demons surrender to the unseen wind that changes everything. All demons serve Impermanence.

They lose desperate anger but gain Indestructible Wrath.

How fortunate it is to be the Formless Force, the deadliest of them all.

#SamsaraMemories: Remembering the thirst

Place where people don't have what they want.

Place where people don’t have what they want.

How do you know if you are in the Hungry Ghosts Realm?

Easy:

  • Constantly suffering because you aren’t where you think you are supposed to be, and because you don’t have what you think you should have.
  • Constantly suffering because you aren’t where you think you are supposed to be, and because you don’t have what you think you should have.
  • Constantly suffering because you aren’t where you think you are supposed to be, and because you don’t have what you think you should have.
  • Constantly suffering because you aren’t where you think you are supposed to be, and because you don’t have what you think you should have.
  • Constantly suffering because you aren’t where you think you are supposed to be, and because you don’t have what you think you should have.

Hungry Ghosts Realm =P